This is going to be the first time. And the very last time I’m going to tell you this. So listen carefully. What you just did there was not right.
Intro Music (00:17):
Tommy P. (00:37):
Good morning, good afternoon and good evening. Welcome to another episode of Under the Bodhi Tree with Tommy P. Today, I’m going to talk a little bit about how to train and teach other people on how to treat you the right way. But before we get into the content, I would like to give gratitude to something that I just have received recently, and it is, this is not even me trying to do any kind of marketing. It’s just that this thing is the sh#t. I love it. So this thing is called an essential oils diffuser, and it came with six different essential oil smells. We got sweet orange peppermint, lavender tea tree, lemon grass, and eucalyptus. Oh, that’s interesting. And each one of these, they have listed the benefits of giving off these scents. Oh my God. I am going to be so busy in my meditation room. Just smelling this all day every day. Okay. So let’s go ahead and get into the content. No commercial, no nothing.
People Treating You Like Sh!t? (02:01):
Do you know somebody that treats you like sh#t and you would love to change that? Well, this depends on quite a few factors. Factor number one. How long have you allowed this certain individual to treat you as such and number two, are you willing to sever your relationship with this person? That’s it, the two things that is a pre-qualifier for teaching other people on how to treat you the way that you would like to be treated. When it is somebody that you have just met, or you guys are more of an acquaintance-based kind of friend, then you would treat it a little bit differently, a little more direct than you would a really good friend or someone that you’ve known for a long time.
Nip It in the Bud (03:09):
So if you met someone for instance, at work, and you’ve only known them for a couple of months or so you guys are not on a friend to friend basis and they make an off color joke about you at your expense. And now you did not like that. And what’s worse. They do it in front of other people and they laugh at you too. It’s a difficult situation for many, but there’s a very simple solution to fixing this. Since you do not know this person that well, you must be direct and let them know who the f&^k they are dealing with. Nip it in the bud the first time it happens, go up to this person and be direct with them. Tell them exactly how you feel. Look, listen, this is going to be the first time. And the very last time I’m going to tell you this. So listen carefully. What you just did there was not right. And I do not condone any disrespect towards me. And I think you’re a cool person. I would love to be friends with you, but you must understand that I do not allow anyone to disrespect me. And then from that point on, after you say something along the lines of that. With full confidence, full conviction in all seriousness with them, with an open heart, of course, and you ended with something like this, do I make myself clear? And from that point, just wait and look at this motherf&^ker through his or her eyes and wait for their response. Most of the time they will understand the situation and they will respect you right there and then. But if they shake at all, they laugh. Say it again. Do I make myself clear and stare through their f&^king skull? And if at that point, if they disrespect you in any way or say anything, but yes I do understand, or yes, you f&^king walk away and you do not deal with that person ever again, sever that sh#t.
Sever Toxic Relationships Immediately (05:45):
You must have confidence in yourself. You must sever every f&^king relationships that is holding you down. That is toxic to you. I’ve always stuck by my family, regardless of what. Cause family is family and it’s blood. However, I know that there are some sh#t out there, but I’m not talking about that right now. I’m talking about people that you deal with that are not your family, sever that sh#t right off and let this motherf&^king know from that point on, I will not be f&^king with you. And don’t you dare test me. As simple as that with an open heart, full confidence in yourself, but also taking no sh#t from anyone and not threatening anyone, but just being serious in what you say with conviction in this person. If they ever come around, which most of the time they will. And even if they don’t f&^k, it doesn’t matter. They will treat you properly.
Dealing With Close Friends (06:58):
On the other hand, if it’s somebody that you know for quite a while or someone that’s very close to you, someone that shares a common interest with you and hang out with you and maybe you just met them, but you guys really, really connect and they insult you or patronize you or makes you feel like sh#t. You approach them a little bit different. How I would personally do this is I would go up to them and tell them one on one. I would say something along the lines of, with an open heart and I’ll say, Hey, what you said over there, man, it made me feel like sh#t, brother, or sister. And I hope that you don’t say that again. Cause it really hurts my feelings. I know that you were probably just playing around, but it really, it really got to me, man. Can you just, you know, do me a favor if you are my brother, if you’re my sister just don’t do that again, man. I think you’re cool and sh#t. I think you’re an awesome person, but that to me just really hits me to the core. I don’t know why, but it just does. So it’s going to take some time for me to dig deep on why that really bothers me. But as of right now, if you truly is someone that is cool with me and truly considers me as a friend. Ya know, I appreciate it very much if you just don’t do that again. And from that point on, if they are a real friend, they will definitely understand you and they will treat you accordingly as well. However, if this motherf&^ker is not really a friend of yours and tries to act like nothing’s wrong with the situation you sever that relationship immediately, finished.
So again, number one, how long have you known this person, number two, you must be willing to sever that relationship. If it’s someone that you kind of know, but not really… Be direct, let them know with an open heart that you must be treated a certain way and you will not tolerate any disrespect. Are we clear? And if they are a friend, come at them in a more gentle way, but put your relationship in the forefront of the conversation. If you see me as a friend, if you truly are cool with me, right? Because you guys already bonded. That conversation is a little bit different.
So that concludes today’s very short episode of Under the Bodhi Tree with Tommy P. Again, I don’t like doing this part, but I must I have a website. I have Instagram, I have YouTube and they’re all higher self concepts, concepts with an S, plural. If you liked this kind of content, you will definitely find the content on those very interesting as well. So until next time, treat yourself right and train other motherf&^kers on how to treat you properly and do not allow any person to disrespect you and let them know immediately, nip it in the bud. If other people do it more than one time, they think they can get away with it. So until next time I bid you all farewell. So peace the f&^k out.
Outro Music (10:33):