That’s an amazing effect. As soon as I left that room, my jaw dropped to the f&#king floor. I couldn’t believe how powerful this principle was.
Intro Music (00:17):
Tommy P. (00:39):
Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening. Welcome to another episode of Under the Bodhi Tree with Tommy P. Today, we are going to talk about how to excuse yourself from sh!tty companies. But before I do that, I just want to real quick give gratitude to something awesome that’s going on in my life. I’ve had my car for about nine years now. Never once did I mod it at all. So recently did got myself an intake and also an access port. And now every time I drive and I hit around 3 or 4 K RPM, and I shift to the next gear, it sounds like a f&#king hurricane underneath my hood. It sounds so f&#king awesome. Okay. Anyways, let’s go ahead and get into the content.
Tommy P. Getting Some Stuff Off His Chest (01:37):
Wait, wait, before I start, this is not a marketing ploy. I just want to say, f&#k motherf&#k, bitch. F&#K. f&#k. F&#K. Motherf&#k sh!t, sh!t, sh!t. Anyways, just wanted to filter it out. The prudes out there that can’t handle profanity, brittle ears. Get the f&#k out. Okay. Now onto the content.
Do you have a friend or, you know, somebody that don’t give a sh!t about you? That don’t very much care for your wellbeing. You told them something, but they never mentioned it again. They forgot about it. They don’t give a sh!t about you. Well, why have you not cut them out of your life as if you’re cutting fat off of meat? Cause they’re a f&#king plague. Now I understand that perhaps you work with this person, you go to school with this person, in the same class, or maybe they’re within the inner circles of friends that you have. And it’s really hard for you to cut them out. I understand that, but you can always cut them out mentally, right…
Cut Them Out of Your Life (02:54):
If you’re not able to at that point in time, able to physically cut them out of your life. Do so mentally. What I mean by that is limit your interactions with these motherf&#kers. Now I know there are exceptions to this. Maybe your friend is not having a good week or having a good month. I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about people who don’t give a f&#k about you.
They Say… (03:23):
They say you are the company that you keep. If your company is successful, or at least the people around you that are successful. You will start operating at that frequency and success can mean a lot of things, maybe in health, wealth, love, or in fulfillment and joy in life. But if they embody… Your friends, embody a certain quality that you admire, then chances are, you will slowly become how they are like in that regard. And the same thing is true, with the opposite of this. So if you hang out with a bunch of negative people in any facet of their life, you start to embody those negative traits as well. But I forgot who said this, but I think as Jim Rome, you are the average of five of the people that you hang around the most. Think about that, is that true? Look at your friends. Look at the people that are in your life. Do you feel that you are the average of five of these people? Chances are, yes.
Alert the Men in White Coats, Tommy P. Is Thinking (04:37):
But I want to take it one step further and talk about something not a lot of people talk about and it’s in regards to appreciation. If you hang around people that do not appreciate you, you’re more predisposed to low self esteem, If you don’t check yourself. But wouldn’t it be easier to just hang out with people that love your presence that appreciate you for you. The more you hang out with those people, man, you’re gonna start feeling good about yourself, right? Higher self esteem, confidence, seeing the silver lining in everything. So moving forward, I implore everyone that is listening to please excuse yourself from these bad company. When you think of this person, if you feel that day, do not appreciate you. Then please, I implore you, let them go, let them go. If later on down the line, they’ve checked themselves and they put forth effort to knowing you and appreciating you and knowing what kind of value you bring to the table and genuinely gives a sh!t about you. At that point. Sure. Let them in. But as of right now, if these people are not… Let them go.
Do You Know Your Value? (06:06):
You first need to know the value of who you are. And I don’t want to say this in a way where a lot of people will think, Oh, I am deserved of things and I’m entitled to certain things. No, this is not what I mean. I mean, knowing your value as a person, what you bring to the table, what kind of person you are? Do you have virtue? If you see yourself in a way where you are an awesome person, then surround yourself with people that think you are awesome. That makes sense. Right? Know your value, know how you want to be treated by people. And if they are not treating you the way that you will like, pay them respect and peace the f&#k out. And then go to places where there are other people where you can mingle with and talk to. And if they appreciate you without blowing smoke up your ass, then develop that relationship. You want to hang out with people that makes you f&#king glow for whatever f&#king reason, maybe a philosophical discussion. May it be a common interests may be visions and goals. May it be their sense of optimism or something in them that you admire that is positive that you would like to embody yourself.
Tommy Can’t Swim That Well but Here Goes (07:37):
Going over to the deep end, here, zero to a hundred real quick. The people that mistreat you, cut them the f&#k out immediately. Immediately. If you’re able to, ignore these motherf&#kers quick, straight out of 48 laws of power, law, 36, disdain things you cannot have ignoring them is the best revenge, by acknowledging a petty problem. You give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make them. And a small mistake is often made worse and more visible, when you try to fix it. I know, ignoring people is not an easy thing to do and it can be painful, but you have to weigh, you have to put them on a scale. Do you desire to be mistreated? Of course, it sounds weird desire, but in essence, you are allowing yourself to be mistreated. If you put yourself in that situation or is the pain of ignoring them a lesser effect, it really depends. But these motherf&#kers don’t know how to treat you with respect and dignity. F&#K those motherf&#kers. Remember ignoring people that f&#k you over or mistreat you is the best revenge.
Back in College, Tommy P. Hulksmashed This Book (09:11):
When I was back in school in college and it was a required reading was how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie. This is a reminder to me that I need to read this book again. That book was really f&#king good. If you want to form real friendships with people, read this book, if you truly want to transform, read this book. And that reminds me, I got to read this book again. So are you curious if your, the sh!tty company or your, the fan that needs to be cut off from the meat? Oh well then, let’s try to change that. I’m going to share with you one principle from this book, how to win friends and influence people.
With Everyone Great Knowledge Comes… (10:06):
And I want you to use this knowledge virtuously, okay, this can be a manipulative tool if you want it to be. And people have used it, but if you meditate and you’re in touch was your intuition. You’re able to sniff that sh!t out quick. Cause B S is B S right? But if you truly want to be a priority in a person’s life that you care about, then do this one thing. This is principle #1 out of 6 ways on how to make a person like you. And it’s to become genuinely interested in that other person. That’s all it is, simple as f&#k, but not a lot of people do it. You see, a lot of us love talking about ourselves and that’s probably our favorite topic. Favorite topic for a majority of us. Some of us, we don’t want to talk about ourselves because low self esteem or other issues. But for majority of us, we love talking about ourselves. We can talk about ourselves all day, every day. Your boy, Tommy P has made a grave mistake in the past few months. And I just came to the realization of this mistake because I just read this. So learn from me. This was my mistake. I’m a man I’ve manned up and admitted them. And it’s this. When you meet people and this goes the same to the people that are already in your life… When you try to impress people, just to try to get them to like you, that sh!t doesn’t work in regards to long lasting, real, true friendship.
Real Friendship Starts With This (12:09):
Real friendships, solid friendships, are the ones where you are interested in them. You are more so impressed about them. And you genuinely show that. Naturally we are interested in others when they are interested in us, of course, there are exceptions to this because certain people just don’t want to open up. But for a majority of people, they give a sh!t when you give a sh!t, they give a sh!t about you when you give a sh!t about them, that’s how it works. Every healthy relationship should have great synergy, going to quote from the book real quick. “You Can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years, by trying to get other people interested in you.”
Personal Example of Using This Principle (13:06):
I’m going to give you all an example of me using this to a great effect a few years back. So a few years back, I was thinking about going to school for radiation therapy. And it was only a two year program. However, you had to go to school for two years. So you got to get two years in, in order to get the prereq’s out the way. And once you get into the program, it’s another two years. So yeah, I don’t, I don’t know. That was a weird thing. So anyways, at that time you had to qualify in order to get into the program. And at that time, I guess I missed a deadline. I had really good grades and I was probably 15 on the list when I came in to see the head of the person that ran this thing, right. They had people that vote people in and stuff like that, but she oversaw all of that. So her word was King or Queen in this matter. So whatever she says goes, so I had a meeting with her, right? She told me, I’m sorry, you’re 15 on the list. We’re already filled to capacity, maybe next semester or next year, because that program only accepted people once a year. Next year, we’ll allow you to go through the interview process and stuff like that. And we’ll see what we can do. So anyways, I was just in there in her office just looking around. And I remember this distinctly because I just finished reading the book. So I just wanted to put this principle in to practice and see, Hey, let’s see how it works. And it was not her specifically. I tried it with everyone and it worked wonders. Of course, sometime it didn’t work on specific people. Like I said, exceptions, outliers and stuff like that. But with this lady, I was just looking around, I looked at her picture frame. I looked at her achievements in life and I started talking about her. I started becoming very genuinely interested in her as a person. From that we talked about a lot of things. Her daughter, her pets, her upbringing, her schooling, she got her master’s degree. I talked about that. How was that experience? She must have felt proud. You know, I was living through her vicariously and I was genuinely interested. And by the end of this meeting, she bumped me up not only to first in line, but I was able to get into the program because she remembered out of nowhere that somebody dropped out. That’s an amazing effect. As soon as I left that room, my jaw dropped to f&#king floor. I couldn’t believe how powerful this principle was. Just become genuinely interested in other people. Genuinely! Don’t do it only when you want something, do it because you give a f&#k and things will f&#king change for you in ways that you won’t believe, Oh my God, I got to read this book again.
Excuse Yourself From Terrible People (16:22):
So know your value and learn to excuse yourself from terrible company. If they don’t appreciate you. If they’re not treating you in a positive manner, leave. Know what you want, know your value, know how you would like to be treated by people and seek out those relationships. And if you truly want to form amazing f&#king bond and real friendship with people, be genuinely interested in them and what they’re all about.
All right. So this concludes today’s podcast, episode, number what, number 15. Holy smokes. Oh boy. I don’t think I was going to make any more of these, but you people listening out there want this sh!t. So I guess I gotta please the motherf&#king people. So anyways I’m not going to plug my stuff too much anymore. I have a website. I have a blog, have an Instagram, funny stuff. I have YouTube and stuff like that. Go check it out. All right? Higher self concepts with all of them, concepts, plural with an S higher self concepts. Again, I really appreciate my listeners out there. Thank you very much for tuning in. Thank you again for all the positive reviews. I got so many, five star reviews on motherf&#king iTunes. Hell yeah, bring them in. And please, if you feel that my content has contributed to your development as a person or a spiritual being, please share this with your friends and family and let them know that we use, I use explicit language generously. So before I sign off, I just want to read a quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer. “If You meet someone whose soul is not aligned with yours, send them love and move along.” And one more quote in regards to knowing your f&#king value, Bible thumpers out there is going to like this one too. “Do Not throw your pearls before swine or they’ll trample them under their feet and turn and tear you to pieces.” Just know your worth. It’s not worth trying to put forth effort towards someone that is fully capable of hitting the tennis ball back to you, but won’t. Be true to yourself. Know your value, the people that will love you, will truly f&#king love you. So go where love is and where appreciation is. So you will vibrate at a higher frequency and have that f&#king glow. Anyways, until next time, this is Tommy P. Under the Bodhi Tree. I bid you all farewell and peace the f&#k out.
Outro Music (19:37):